Simplify Your Home by Embracing Your Style

by Mandi on March 22, 2011

Simplify Your Home

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This week we’re talking about simplifying family life. Tune in all week for strategies and tips for every area of life, and if you’re looking for more in-depth resources, be sure to check out the Huge Simplify Family Life eBook Sale!

Ideally, your house is your haven — a place where you can be yourself, feel safe and know you’re home.

Part of creating a home that feels this way is embracing your own style rather than living by someone else’s rules. And there are lots of rules. Curtains should be hung at a certain height. Don’t use dark paint colors. Create balance. Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.

But here’s the thing — the people making up those rules? They don’t live in your home!

Before we had kids, I spent a couple of years in real estate at the height of the housing bubble. During this time, one of our clients was an upper middle class couple who had very particular ideas about what they wanted in a home. As we looked at house after house and discussed the pros and cons of each as well as the costs to update them and the potential appreciation in value, the husband said something I’ve never forgotten. He said, “This isn’t an investment. It’s our home.”

When I was a teenager, my dad decided to paint the master bedroom in his house forest green. He added lots of white accents to brighten it up, but honestly, I still didn’t like it. But you know what? My stepmom and he did. In fact, they loved it! And that’s really all that matters.

Simplify your home by creating a haven for your family that reflects your style, whatever that may be:

Take Risks

Taking risks in your home doesn’t mean spending a ton of money. In a lot of cases, it’s exactly the opposite. It’s using a picnic table in your kitchen. It’s painting wood instead of refinishing it.

Over the past few months, The Nester has been talking a lot about taking risks in your home, and today she has a full linky dedicated to letting other bloggers show off the risks they’ve taken!

If you’re afraid to step outside of the norm and take some risks, browse through those posts and give yourself permission to take risks and embrace your style!

Accept Imperfection

So often we get caught up in wanting everything to be just perfect. We feel like our home should look like the ones in home decor magazines or on HGTV, but that’s just not realistic unless you have an unlimited supply of money and no one actually living in your house.

Instead of shooting for perfection, look for ways to embrace your style and make your home beautiful that still fit within your budget and make your home livable for your family. Last week, Myra shared these great knock-off decor projects, and while they might not be perfect replicas of their brand name counterparts, they’re beautiful anyway!

It’s Just Paint

I’m always surprised by the number of people who live in stark white homes because they’re afraid to paint.

Our curent home has a lot of white (or white-looking) walls because that’s our style, but in our first condo, we painted an accent wall in each room with an eye-popping color. Yellow in the sunroom, bright red in the family room, lime green in the office, hot pink in the master bathroom (hey, we were newlyweds and I really wanted it to be pink), blue in the master bedroom and a deep charcoal in the guest bathroom. In our next home, we used earthy tones — a deep eggplant in the guest room, a deep red in the kitchen, etc.

I loved the way both places looked, but even if it hadn’t turned out the way we hoped, all it would have taken was a few more coats of paint to cover it up.

Don’t be afraid to paint. Color can have a huge impact and make your home truly feel like home! It’s just paint, and you can change it later if you don’t like it.

Only Keep Things You Love

While our home decor is fairly minimalist, I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way to decorate. However, if you are overwhelmed by the number of knickknacks and want to simplify your decor, take a hard look at each and every item in your home and only keep those things that you love. If it doesn’t make you smile to see it, then you shouldn’t have to dust it! Get rid of the things that are part of your decor “just because” and keep the ones that you love.

Does embracing your style and taking risk come easy for you, or do you struggle with feeling like you need to follow the rules?


  • http://twitter.com/bsiron Beth Siron

    Great post. Now I’m inspired to go repaint the house (not that anyone would accuse me of being afraid to change the paint color). Or better yet, maybe I’ll paint the office :)

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      So fun! Do you have a palette you stick with, or do you like to try new
      things?

  • missy

    oh i totally agree about the paint! when i’m looking at houses, paint is always better than wallpaper! so much easier to change. for years my mom has been negative nelly about any colors i have chosen to paint in my home, partly because my husband and i viewed it as a starter home, and partly because she would complain no matter what. “i’ve never seen a blue kitchen before” “no one’s going to want to buy a house with flowers painted on the wall” she seriously spends too much time on hgtv…
    so refreshing to hear someone else who believes that paint is just paint.

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      Okay, flowers painted on the wall? Do you have a picture — sounds very
      cool!

  • Anonymous

    Paint is such a cheap and quick way to change things up! I recently decided I had had it with my blue bathroom! One gallon of paint, a new shower curtain, a couple of inexpensive accesories from Hobby Lobby and it looks awesome! The most expensive thing? A new arched shower curtain rod at $50! I love it and it really looks classy now.
    Bernice
    The journey of a work-at-home mom

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      I love arched shower curtains too! It’s amazing how a fresh coat of paint
      and some new accessories can make such a big difference, isn’t it?

  • http://twitter.com/EnjoyBirth Sheridan Ripley

    We started going through our garage last weekend. That is the huge dumping ground of our house. So it feels like it will take us forever. I am ready to just get rid of things, but my DH isn’t and is SO SLOW deciding to keep or not to keep. That is my biggest challenge right now.

  • Rae

    My husband wished that more people looked at theire homes as a place to live rather than an investment. That was a HUGE thing to him when we were looking for our “dream home”. He would NEVER work in a housing association because that are so many rules because everyone is just worried about house values rather than living in their home.

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      It’s kind of sad that we’ve become so focused on the financial aspects
      rather than the emotional security that comes from a home you love!

  • Lisa W.

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  • http://itwasbroughtonbylove.blogspot.com Southern Gal

    My son-in-law will love this.  Thanks for the chance.  I’m going to send him to the site now. 

  • http://twitter.com/kalynbr00ke Kalyn Comings

    I would love to learn how to grow herbs effectively! Every time I try to start from seed, I inevitably end up killing the plant.

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  • Lindsey

    I recently started doing ONE thing that makes me feel better: I’m using more washcloths and less paper towels. I gathered all the washcloths I have and stacked them neatly in the kitchen. When they’re close at hand, I’m more likely to reach for them when cleaning toddler faces and spilled milk. I even bought some that match my kitchen because I’ve noticed that when something is cute and matchy, I like using it more! Silly, I know, but it motivates me, so that’s good!

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      It may be silly, but I’m definitely the same way. I think that’s one reason
      that “going green” is big business!

  • Lindsey

    I recently started doing ONE thing that makes me feel better: I’m using more washcloths and less paper towels. I gathered all the washcloths I have and stacked them neatly in the kitchen. When they’re close at hand, I’m more likely to reach for them when cleaning toddler faces and spilled milk. I even bought some that match my kitchen because I’ve noticed that when something is cute and matchy, I like using it more! Silly, I know, but it motivates me, so that’s good!

  • http://lucidlotuslife.com Lucidlotuslife

    Ack, yes!  I have green guilt and eco anxiety.  It probably doesn’t help that I live in Portland where it’a practically required by law that you not only ride your bike to work, but also to help power your home; do all your shopping at local farms or the famers market if you’re truly lazy.
    I do a lot of things on your list, but I found one I can do – clean with vineager and water.  It’s a start:)

    • Selena

      Seriously!! I feel the same way!  My husband banned by ideas for chickens, but I feel compelled to do solar panels…all that darn peer pressure ;0  I LOVE Portland…despite the pressure!

  • Anonymous

    simplifying things can definitely make things easier for you.

  • Shelly Wildman

    This is so true! And so helpful, Bernice. I went back to work this fall (part-time), but I already can see how I’m just getting so much more done around the house because I know my time is limited. When I was home full-time I put things off like crazy. Now I don’t have the luxury of procrastination. It either gets done now, or it doesn’t get done at all. 

    • http://livingthebalancedlife.com Bernice Wood

      It is amazing how much we get done when the time is shorter. There is a saying that goes something like: A job will expand to fill the time available.  If we learn to place some limits to our “work time” and then plan for time for rest and recreation, it is likely we will accomplish more during that specific time.
      Congrats on the part-time work!
      Bernice
      Reducing clutter to reduce stress

  • Greta Boris

    Great article.  Sometimes, I find, I have to stop long enough to assess what actually needs to be done or I just run around putting out fires.  I wrote a blog post in January entitled Slowing Down to Get Ahead that would fit well with your philosphy.

    • http://lifeyourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      It’s the “tyranny of the urgent”, right? I think that our fast-paced culture definitely contributes to this!

      • Stacey

        @Mandi, yes, it seems as if everything is urgent. One thing that helps is to differentiate between urgent and important. There are similar yet quite different and recognizing where certain tasks/to-do items fall can make all the difference.

  • PatriciaD

    Great advice…hard to do if you’re one of those “I may need it one day” kind of people – which I am but I am really working very hard to let things go – especially as I am about to move into my cabin (in Alaska) that is all of 14′x20′ and I mean that is it…all one room.  Kind of forced into less is more…huh!!

    • http://twitter.com/WorkingNaked Lisa Kanarek

      Your new move definitely counts as being forced into a less is more situation. But don’t be surprised by what few things you’ll need to live in a smaller space. Most of us could live with half of the stuff we own. Good luck. You can do it!

  • http://livingthebalancedlife.com Bernice Wood

    Oh yea, I am definitely one of those who keeps things because I may need it one day. And my husband is 10 times worse than me! My “office” is a recliner and a bookshelf and my laptop. The bookshelf stays cluttered of things I am hanging onto!
    Great post!
    Bernice
    How do I clean…?

    • http://www.workingnaked.com Lisa Kanarek

      Hi Bernice- I love the description of your home office. It sounds comfy. A good way to take control over shelves is to use containers to organize papers and supplies. Take a close look at the stuff you’re keeping and put anything you can’t stand to give away, in boxes clearly labeled, and then store the boxes in one place (garage, basement, attic). When you’re ready to declutter, it will be easier to toss the boxes or donate a few of the things in them.

  • Trinagurl85

    for gifts i always shop ahead of time n look for things that’s on sale or on clearance at the stores so that way i wont have to deal with the crazyness and i save money. for the decorations, i buy them a week after christmas when every thing is half off. it is less stressful that way

    • http://lifeyourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      Isn’t decor shopping AFTER Christmas the best? So many great deals to be had!

      • http://livingthebalancedlife.com Bernice Wood

        My tree is decorated from Cracker Barrel after Christmas sales! I got most of the cutest ornaments for .50-$1!

  • http://livingthebalancedlife.com Bernice Wood

    We try to plan ahead as well. Even though I don’t SHOP ahead (I hate shopping!) we try to budget out for expenditures. Our house taxes are not escrowed and are due each year on December 20th! We always try to pay by first of November so we have $ to spend for Christmas. 
    Great ideas here Mandi!
    Bernice
    Mom and 11 year old son work to make dream come true!

  • http://www.lovinglycreatedbyali.blogspot.com Ali

    I AM going to have my red livingroom wall…. LOL! We recently painted our main bathroom “Kingston Aqua…” by Manor Hall it so GORGEOUS! And yes, a few new accessories made a huge difference. Funny thing is… we live in a town named KINGSTON! LOL. Thanks for the great post and TY Lain Ehmann for pointing me in this direction! :o )-Ali 

    • http://lifeyourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      I LOVE red, and I hope you do get your red wall!

  • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

    Yep, you’re 100% on (as is Selena!)…i find that when we focus on one at a
    time rather than EVERYTHING we could be doing, the changes are easier and
    last longer! Love your non-judgmental attitude too!

  • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

    Great quote, Emily — I think that applies to a lot of different areas of
    life! Thanks for chiming in!

  • http://livingthebalancedlife.com Bernice Wood

    You are very welcome Courtney. Sometimes we ALL need reminders of even the most obvious!
    Bernice
    Eating healthy for the long haul

  • http://twitter.com/WorkingNaked Lisa Kanarek

    I work the same way. If my desk isn’t clear or almost clear, I get distracted too easily and tend to jump from project to project. That’s great that you get rid of supplies. I’m sure someone else appreciates the donation.

  • http://lifeyourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

    Love how intentional you are about this, Audrey — great idea!

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